Bridging Communication Gaps: Enhancing Understanding Between Interneuro Partners
In interneuro relationships, where one partner is neurodivergent and the other is neurotypical, everyday communication can be a journey of learning and adaptation. Adopting strategies that feel natural and informal can make a big difference. Below are some casual, practical examples of how to effectively communicate intentions, both proactively and reactively, in a way that's relatable and easy to incorporate into daily conversations.
Casual Proactive Communication: Prefacing Statements
- Setting the Scene Casually: Before jumping into a topic, try something like, “Hey, just a heads up, I’m curious about something and just want to get your take on it.”
- 'I' Statements in Everyday Language: Instead of formal declarations, say, “I’m kinda feeling worried about this thing, and I wanna see what you think.”
- Inviting Their Perspective: Wrap up your preface with, “What’s your take on this?”
Casual Reactive Communication: Immediate Clarification
- Quickly Adding Context: If you forget to preface, throw in a quick, “Oh, wait, just so you know, I’m not trying to be critical or anything. Just super curious!”
- Acknowledging the Missed Step: A simple, “Oops, I should’ve said this first,” can show you’re aware and trying.
- Checking In: After clarifying, casually ask, “Does that make more sense now?”
How These Strategies Have Helped Us Personally
Implementing these casual communication techniques has been a game-changer in our journey of learning to communicate better with each other. It's fascinating how something as simple as adding a quick preface or a clarification can steer conversations away from potential misunderstandings.
For instance, there were times I'd ask something abruptly, and it would unintentionally come off as harsh or critical. By learning to add a quick, “Just wondering, no big deal,” it helped set a lighter tone and made it clear that I was coming from a place of curiosity, not judgment.
On the other hand, when Luis started using clearer, more direct language and breaking down their points, it became easier for me to follow and really grasp what they were saying without the guesswork.
These small shifts in how we talk to each other have brought us closer and made our conversations more enjoyable and less stressful. It's all about understanding and respecting each other's communication style, and these casual strategies have been key in making that happen. They’ve turned what could be misunderstandings into opportunities for deeper connection and empathy.